Mom Jeans Are In (13 Week Update)

We’ve been keeping a bit of a secret – though it seems apparent and not a secret at all by the way I have been feeling. I’m pulling out my Mom jeans in October… I’m pregnant! This journey has been so special already and I’m so happy I get to share the news now.

Here are some answers to the questions we’ve been getting:

  • Due date: October 25, 2019
  • How far along are you? About 13 weeks.
  • When did you find out? I was feeling “off” (dizzy, tired, high heart rate doing normal activities, sore chest area…) very soon after I likely conceived and we confirmed (with four tests) at the beginning of February. My first doctor’s appointment was on March 19th. And, yes, there’s just one in there.
  • Gender: We don’t know yet! We want to find out when we can, which is scheduled right now May 21. We could have done the early genetic testing which also tells us the gender, but because it’s an out-of-pocket expense and I am not high-risk, we opted to wait.
  • Planned? ::Eyeroll:: Can you imagine? (Yes! We’re pumped!)
  • Feeling sick? For a couple of weeks, but it’s mostly gone now. I feel really lucky with this as some women have told me they felt nauseous for most of their pregnancy. I will say, the first two times I actually got sick (I did this a total of four times – TMI?) were the worst ideal situations I could imagine.
  • Other feelings: TIRED. Excited. Nervous. Now that I’m in the second trimester (what?!), my energy is returning and I’ve been feeling more able to have a somewhat normal daily life!
  • Cravings: Not many yet, though I’ve been eating 200% more fruit than ever before – I think that has to do with feeling thirsty and dehydrated. And… carby things like bagels and crackers, though I attribute that to settling my stomach when I was feeling sick.
  • Names? We don’t have any yet. We have some ideas, but we likely won’t share until the baby is born… you know how people can be 🙂
  • Have you always wanted kids? No, actually. It’s been a growing feeling within the last year. When I got married, I liked my life just as it was… just me and my bestie husband and our two dogs. Within the year we’ve been talking a lot about it and we felt like we’d be missing out on more life by not having a child.
  • How did you tell your husband/family? My husband was right there with me when I took my tests. He didn’t believe the first two because the lines on the test weren’t really too bold… but, as time passed and I tested again, there was no question! And, he was so happy! As for my family, they were all together right when I hit the 12-week mark which was convenient timing (most of my family is in Florida with one sister in California). I sent a package for my niece’s birthday with a scratch-off lotto ticket I found on Etsy (here!) to reveal the news with some photos and gifts inside… along with her birthday gift, of course!

I’m thrilled to share this news and my journey. As many of you might know my history with battling my body, I am so (so, so) happy to be able to be pregnant with a (so far) healthy outlook. I know so many women have trouble conceiving and because of the neglect of their nutrition and the care of their bodies for so many years. Because of this, I was unsure if I would be one of them, too.

Another thing I’ve been worried about in getting pregnant at all is how I would take care of myself as I saw my body growing softer, daily. And, how I would feel in my body after I became a mom. It’s something on my mind, but so far, I’ve been happy to say that I am enjoying the journey.

I’ve felt a lot of fatigue so far so my exercise routine is not the same or even close. I’m currently the number-one fan of walking and quick lifting routines. I’ve run a total of 12 miles within these 13 weeks, going from running around 10-20 miles per week to 0-5. I feel more energized and more myself doing something active, but I’ve been more than okay with trading my cardio circuit workouts with a walk around the block. I’ve never been a napper, but I’m now trading in doing more with snoozefests. I’m also trying to eat well – regularly with a variety of good nutrition… but that doesn’t mean I’m saying “no” to a blueberry glazed donut (uh, never!).

And… I’m weirdly okay with it all. I’m listening to my body and I’m proud of that. It’s no longer only about me and my health and that’s something that has always motivated me – doing good for myself… for someone else. Now it’s about baby, my husband, my family, and me.

That being said, I’ve heard that once you spill the beans that you’re pregnant, you’ll start fielding tons of (unsolicited) advice. I get that people are trying to be helpful, but you know what I want the most? I want to experience a pregnancy that is special to my husband and I, the way it happens to unfold. I have a doctor. I have a mom and sister who make it look easy that I can run to for advice. I have the Googler. And, I have a lot of love for this little one already!

I’ll try to do a regular update along the way. Thanks for your support with our news!

NEDA Week – Freedom Outweighs Comparison

It’s National Eating Disorders Awareness (NEDA) week with the theme Come as you are… not as you think you should be. The NEDA website says that the theme was intended to improve inclusivity among eating disorders and sharing one’s story should allow people to know that their own “experiences are valid and welcome, no matter where they are in relation to food or their bodies.”

This got me thinking about the broader picture. For instance, there is a large population of people who don’t necessarily identify with having an eating disorder, per se, or have not been diagnosed with one, but rather, they have a strained relationship with food, their body, the beliefs they carry and the behaviors they partake in because of it. Hey – it’s not your fault, it’s the society we live in. Continue reading NEDA Week – Freedom Outweighs Comparison

Planning Ahead to Stay On Track

Over the years, my relationship with food has undoubtedly changed. Not only have I changed my relationship, but I’ve tuned into how I feel before and after eating certain foods, I’ve learned what foods to eat so I feel energized, how to plan and cook my favorite meals, and I have learned to be more flexible in my eating.

That’s great until… now I’m traveling three weekends each month, so what do I do now?

You’ve probably heard the term “Fail to plan and you’re planning to fail.” Well, I think we think about staying on track with one’s diet and exercise plan. We think about meal planning in neatly packaged Tupperware containers and laying our clothes out the night before a morning run.

But, for me, I know what happens when I don’t eat for a long period of time. I feel fatigued, distracted, and sure, a little cranky. I know that once I find food, I’m very hungry and will be happy to devour whatever I can find. That’s okay, except after that, I feel very full and sleepy once again. Continue reading Planning Ahead to Stay On Track

Three Steps to A Better Body Relationship

There is a lot of hype these days around “Self Love” and “Body Love” or “Body Positivity.” They’re buzzwords that we crave but most of us feel confused on how others seem to just have it when we often don’t know what it feels like.

Just love yourself. Whatever you look like, that’s enough. It’s who you are inside that counts.

It’s easy to say. It’s easy for me to say as a white woman with a socially accepted body. We know it’s not easy for everyone to believe, but isn’t it safe to assume a skinny person might love him- or herself more than someone stigmatized and overweight? Yep. Continue reading Three Steps to A Better Body Relationship

You Can’t Just Look and Tell

One of the biggest misconceptions about eating disorders (and there are many) is that a person can tell if another person has one… just by looking at them.

You probably have a picture in your mind what someone who suffers from an eating disorder looks like: 

He or she is frail and gaunt with sunken in cheekbones, knees bigger than thighs, and biceps smaller than the elbows. You can pick them out because they look tired and never eat. Sound right? Continue reading You Can’t Just Look and Tell