October is a hard month.
Each year it brings me more perspective and October is always one of the more reflective times of the year for me, but it doesn’t make it less hard. I’ve always loved October, the beginning of fall, and Halloween… but it took on a different meaning 13 years ago. Hard things come up unscheduled, on top of each other, and when we least expect it… and life keeps moving, ready or not. As I continue to grow on my journey, I think that’s the lesson. We have to do hard things sometimes when we don’t want to, but there are lessons behind them that we cannot even dream of knowing today – we just have to keep working through them.
I woke up today on October 13th, 2019 alone. I’m alone in my house, but at the same time, not at all lonely. I’m grateful for the fullness of my life. I thought about the day 13 years ago that changed my life and I cried for that scared young girl who thought she could do it on her own. I cried for the woman today waking up in her bed who thinks she needs to do it on her own. And, I cried for the future woman, my future self, who can’t imagine doing it on her own. Continue reading October 13th Brings 13 (Lucky, Hardworking) Years
It’s National Eating Disorders Awareness (NEDA) week with the theme Come as you are… not as you think you should be. The NEDA website says that the theme was intended to improve inclusivity among eating disorders and sharing one’s story should allow people to know that their own “experiences are valid and welcome, no matter where they are in relation to food or their bodies.”
This got me thinking about the broader picture. For instance, there is a large population of people who don’t necessarily identify with having an eating disorder, per se, or have not been diagnosed with one, but rather, they have a strained relationship with food, their body, the beliefs they carry and the behaviors they partake in because of it. Hey – it’s not your fault, it’s the society we live in. Continue reading NEDA Week – Freedom Outweighs Comparison
There is a lot of hype these days around “Self Love” and “Body Love” or “Body Positivity.” They’re buzzwords that we crave but most of us feel confused on how others seem to just have it when we often don’t know what it feels like.
Just love yourself. Whatever you look like, that’s enough. It’s who you are inside that counts.
It’s easy to say. It’s easy for me to say as a white woman with a socially accepted body. We know it’s not easy for everyone to believe, but isn’t it safe to assume a skinny person might love him- or herself more than someone stigmatized and overweight? Yep. Continue reading Three Steps to A Better Body Relationship
One of the biggest misconceptions about eating disorders (and there are many) is that a person can tell if another person has one… just by looking at them.
You probably have a picture in your mind what someone who suffers from an eating disorder looks like:
He or she is frail and gaunt with sunken in cheekbones, knees bigger than thighs, and biceps smaller than the elbows. You can pick them out because they look tired and never eat. Sound right? Continue reading You Can’t Just Look and Tell
As I prepare for my speaking engagement about eating disorders and athletes, I have been having this thought (fear!) in regard to these young people I’ll soon address:
They might think that eating disordered behaviors and thoughts are normal.
Let’s think about that for a minute. What I’m saying is that the thoughts of wanting to become smaller, fitter, and more appealing are WIDESPREAD… and the behaviors a person will engage in to achieve those things, are normal. Continue reading Are We All Doomed in Eating Disorder Culture?